Recently I got into a really intense fight with my father. It started because of a messy kitchen and it ended up with me in tears yelling about how I never asked to be born, and I don't know why he ever chose to have a kid anyway. The fight was really bad and out of extreme rage I told him I hope he's happy with being anti-social and ordering random shit online each day because he will die without ever developing any kind of relationship with his family or anyone else. My father has never been a real father beyond providing financially. In a rage, I smashed a few things and ran upstairs and told myself I'll never bring a child into this world because I don't see a real purpose to do so. I've devised a list of reasons of why anyone would have a baby. Here it is:
1. It was an accident.
2. Society's standards. Society creates an expectation and illusion that when people reach a certain age, they must marry, have kids, etc. People think by meeting this expectation that they will have a fulfilling life or that it's just the right thing to do, because the majority of people do this.
3. Because they "want" to have a baby.
- There's a number of reasons that I've thought about on why anyone would "want" a baby. First, I think it's a psychological thing where humans want to feel like they are needed or important. By having a child, they can fill a certain void they have inside and feel that they are actually valuable. Second, because they're cute (which is not a valid reason!). Third, based on reason #2, someone probably thinks that they decided on their own to have a baby, but that decision was actually a result of society's expectations. Basically, this person has fallen victim to the illusion.
4. This person is crazy and wants to keep their spouse forever by creating a permanent bond of having a baby. None of those reasons are really because someone wants to provide for a child just to provide for a child. I think there are more than enough babies in the world without parents. If someone really wanted to support a baby, they'd go adopt one and clean up after someone else's mistake, but instead they go create their own. Humans need to feel good about themselves, so they go and create a living thing that is a part of them to extend their existence. I find it kind of narcissistic. How could anyone really want to have a baby? Ask yourself do you enjoy changing diapers, potty training, sleepless nights due to a crying baby, or not having the time to do things that you once actually enjoyed anymore? One important thing that most people already lack is patience, and having a baby will truly test that. My father constantly says "you need to respect me because I am your father", "I gave you life and you can't even give back by doing *insert task here*", and "what good are you for if you're not going to do *insert task here*". Oh so this man decided to give birth to me, so I can appreciate the life that he gave me and I should do whatever he says? As if I asked to be born! Obviously he only had kids so he can wield his power around and feel almighty. I wasn't going to write this, but then I saw this video on my Facebook feed that showed the perfect example of someone who should not have had a baby (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WjtkNsji5jI&feature=youtu.be) Here you will find a woman beating up her 8 month old baby. It's disgusting, cruel, and another thing I've added to the list of reasons why I don't want to exist in this world anymore. I wish all the worst things in the universe upon her. Every time I encounter an idiot or someone that actually makes me angry, I let it slide 90% of the time because I tell myself it's not their fault they weren't raised right. People really need to think about having a baby and what it really means to have one before they actually do. Babies aren't meant to give parents anything, parents are suppose to be the ones giving them love and support. Don't have the damn accident.
Don't let society dictate what you want or don't want.
And don't be the psycho (idiot) that thinks you can keep someone around by having a baby with them because there's a thing called divorce, and it's most likely going to happen. | 
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